Hello Men, and All Humans who love Men,

There are vitally important conversations in the world of Men and relationship that need to be happening. It’s past time for the honest, difficult, vital conversations among men. As men, it’s time for us to show up in vulnerable, powerful, intelligent ways. 

I offer a few questions to live into:

• How do we genuinely love ourselves and each other, as men?
• How do we cultivate fierce, sustainable intimacy in our lives?
• What are we doing in our Sex – is wound driving our desire?
• How do we feel impact–in others and in ourselves–in our relationships without moving into posturing or collapse?
• What basic elements create true meaning in our lives?
  

These conversations are dangerously absent in our culture. We no longer have the luxury of waiting to engage in them.

These Men’s Groups will be held around the fire.

This group is for beginners and advanced participants alike. The content of this group is edgy by design, as most of what I am wanting us to address doesn’t have a venue that is out in the open. Given that there aren’t many vehicles for dialogue around sex, sovereignty, shadow, wound and other vital topics, there is an ongoing experimental aspect to this group where we will be trying out different forms, new ideas, and collaboratively shaped practices. I am wanting men to draw on all of their previous experience in life, relationships, trainings, traumas, lessons learned, lessons unlearned, struggles, and more to both participate and offer their gifts, as well as providing the valuable feedback and insight that each of you–and only you–can provide given your unique composition and place in this world as a Man.

We will focus on a few handfuls of primary topics all under the umbrella of Emotional, relational, and embodied Intelligence (the Art of Being Relational with yourself and the World):

1. Masculinity.
2. Sex, Sexuality, & Intimacy.
3. Sovereignty.
4. Wound/Shadow.
5. Relationships…and so much more (topics change based on what is alive in the group and what appears most needed and relevant).

All of this will be in the practice of Truth Telling.

In this 9-session group, we will explore the above and the related terrain of:

• What masculine energy is, and how men embody the masculine while working to discern between the innate masculine (if there is one) and the inherited cultural version of the masculine, as well as how the more unconscious influences (upbringing, culture, gender norms) show up in our lives and in our relationships in ways that are destructive all while learning how to do something different.
• An honest and open exploration of sex and sexuality—both with ourselves and with sexual partners—while discussing what the terrain of sex looks and feels like for each of us, asking what intimacy is—both in the bedroom and out of the bedroom—and exploring sexual sovereignty as both a concept and a practice.
• Truth telling in both the sense of telling the truth—our own truths about our experiences, feelings, shame, shadow, joy—as well as cultivating a culture of accountability where group members feel safe to call out—and be called out—and then be called in by and for each other.

My hope is to foster connection–and community–around these oft-distorted and charged topics to, in turn, allow for a more easeful, fluid, ongoing, conversation to improve our self-images as men, our capacity for intimacy and honesty with ourselves, and in all our relationships.

A central part of the group is “The Stretch:” where, each week, everyone will present our ‘stretch’ for the week. What that means is something that we want to do, that will be a stretch outside of our comfort zone, and will help each of us be in different relationship with our patterns of procrastination and contraction (or over functioning and hyper-expansion) while also helping to keep us more accountable to ourselves and to the group.

Also, I would so appreciate it if you could share this group description with any men that you think may be interested and can contribute their unique perspective to this soulful endeavor.

I want to emphasize that so much of healing, growth, and evolution can only happen in community with others present to witness us in our wound, our shame, our wholeness (cracks and all), and in our gifts. The power of Groups provides the space and place for this to occur in a safe enough, sacred, and intimate way.

I look forward to meeting You and being met by You.

With wild aliveness, deep curiosity, and gratitude,

Jeffrey

“There are two questions a man must ask himself: The first is ‘Where am I going?’ and the second is ‘Who will go with me?’ If you ever get these questions in the wrong order you are in trouble.”
― Sam Keen, Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man